So, a few people are a little concerned about this. A few important notes.The dad in these comics is shown to have chronic depression and, for him, showing others kindness makes it better. It may not make him totally happy, but it reminds him that he _can_ be. This can seem somewhat troubling out of context, but viewing the comics as a whole, it's quite fitting.
I don’t get it :( Does the dad get happiness out of making others happy and that’s why they pretended to be sad?
Been a lot of comics about the dad being sad recently. Has anyone checked in with the author, see if he’s doing ok? u/lunarbaboon ?
This my friends, is called shelving. It’s something we teach men to do, to be providers in our lives, and to “shelve” their own feelings in service of others. It can definitely make one feel good in the moment, especially because things like community service and serving your family, can feel fulfilling. But at the end of the day, if those negative feelings don’t come off the “shelf”, to be addressed, they will only grow and grow with time and neglect.
That’s not going to cheer Daddy up, that’s going to make Daddy bottle up his feelings so he can take care of his wife and kid. What Daddy really needs is to talk about why he is so down.
This makes senes in the larger comic but to take it and strip it of its context it seems like you're framing the dad surpessing his emotions to looks strong for his family as a good thing which reinforces very awful stereotypes that jave plauged mens mental health for ages. I am sure you did not intend this and I do not mean to attack you or the message you were trying to send but for all those in the future trying to spread positive messages please be mindful of any dangerous mentalities they might enforce.
Not really a fan of this so much. As a guy who's had some issues with mental health in the past, I don't like perpetuating the image that we just need to push it down and be happy for others when there's a problem. Wholesome would have been the wife and son making him pancakes maybe?
not to be rude, but it kinda looks like: "dad is sad", "oh let's add pressure to him now having to make his family happy as well as him being sad"
I want Banana Pancakes now.....
Wait is he not allowed to be down even for a moment so everyone around him plays the victim which makes him have to suppress things even more?
Wrong sub, this is anything but wholesome.
Jesus christ this does not hit as wholesome.
Let's me first see the Ingredients of pancakes hmmm... We need milk let me go to the grocery store to get some milk. I will be back soon son .
I don’t find this wholesome at all. I’m sure they could have found a way of cheering him up that didn’t involve manipulation and making him responsible for their feelings.Even better they could have given him support, and allowed him to be sad and to work through his feelings
So like his feelings don't matter and it's just the others feelings that matter. Not wholesome at all
His family pretending to be sad is making him suppress his own emotions for the good of the family. Helping his family gives him purpose and shows he is needed but I feel like it's a somewhat quick fix to something which could be more complicated.I know it's a comic, but it's also a place where we can discuss important issues like mental health in an open way.
I guess this depends on context, sometimes a sense of purpose or something to do can greatly help when feeling low.Hopefully he doesn't feel low because he feels he is shouldering the emotional burden of the family..
I get the sentiment, but manipulating a depressed person into expending emotional energy for other people's problems isn't helpful in the least. Quite the opposite.
Shit meme. "Hey dad's depressed. Let's pretend that we're sad so he forgets about his problems and refocuses on us". Shit meme.
Wait so he was sad and they made him make *them* pancakes?? Shouldn’t they have made him pancakes?
This is weird. Idk if its wholesome at all. Poor dad can’t be sad and they have impose their sadness for him to “get over it”? I don’t get it.
So instead of asking daddy what's wrong with hım or could they be of any help, they try to make it go away by reminding him he's responsible of everyone's happiness and convince him to forget his misery and make pancakes for them instead.
Dad needs to get up and make pancakes even though he’s actually probably going thru it rn?
I’m just wondering why they didn’t ask him why HE was sad. They’re ignoring the issue.
So dont care about his problem, just manipulate him to make pancakes XD.... lesson learnt
I don't see this as wholesome at all. I see the feelings of a depressed man being negated by his family who feel his only contribution and worth are relegated to their dependence on him and then masked by a 45 minute sugar rush to avoid having to confront any real issues.
Kinda selfish tbh. Why not just ask him what’s wrong, and try to be there for him? Sure pancakes might be a temporary happiness but his sadness might be on a deeper level. He needs support, not a slap stick “wannabe-sit-com” joke.
That's right kids, pretend to be sad so men will try to fix you, that's what gives them satisfaction! ugh... For real though, you should never pretend to be something for the sake of someone else's mental health. It's a slippery slope.